Why You Shouldn’t Care About What Other People Think

whatpeoplethinkDealing with what other people think about you is part of the human nature. You can’t think less about how people perceive your personality and lifestyle. Social media has played a major part in fueling the already judgmental people to share their negative and a lot less positive feedback about other people’s lives. Everyone is free to share their opinion positive or negative about a person’s lifestyle. There’s no social-media-police which can stop these people from trolling others. Where social media is winning a war for freedom of expression and making it easy for everyone to share their opinion and connect, it’s also losing one against cyber and virtual bullying.

The reason why I’m writing this blog is to highlight this matter of bullying which my other blogger friends told me about and I’ve also personally experienced. Those harsh words used by the trolls can be traumatizing and can also destroy your confidence. It is very important that we shouldn’t care much about other people’s negative opinion which can lower our morale and disheartens us from doing what we cherish. I and my friends have learned some things from these bad experiences with the followers and have come up with some counter-thoughts and techniques that make us care less about what others thing and it feels like freedom. I actually feel liberated and even a little bit of that bully who wants YOU to have his opinion or approval. Once you stop looking for an approval from someone else your self-esteem boosts, and you start to appreciate and respect your own self. Let me tell the story of how I started to see myself differently, caring less about what others think.

Almost a year ago when I was visiting my mum during the summer vacations, I told her that how stressful it gets being a blogger when people have a negative opinion about you. The one thing she said that hit me really hard was simple yet reassuring. She said that it’s none of your business to think about other people’s opinion. What really matters is the opinion of people who really know about you and your personality. It made me think that she’s right, why should I care about a stranger’s opinion? Why should I spend my energies on a perspective that isn’t gonna make me or break me? I agree, that I’m a people pleaser and I’ve always been good at academics and I’ve also done my best to make my parents proud. I’m passionate about the things that I love and working hard to be the best version of me is in my nature. It is something that I’ve inherited from my parents. I started this blog when I was pregnant with my first kid, and so far I’ve been successful with my dream to contribute to the society by doing what I do best. If you’re satisfied by what you do and how you look then that is all what matters. All the haters will turn into admirers when they’d watch you overcoming your barriers and becoming successful. Until you achieve those goals you always dreamed about, you shouldn’t stop a second to think about what others have to say. This is the key to the spiritual liberation that gets the best out of all of us.

Can Mums Be Sexy?

kim-kardashianEver since I came across Kim Kardashian’s nude picture on Instagram, it made me think that where do I stand on this topic of nudity and being a mother. I’m a broad minded person and nudity doesn’t offend me, do didn’t the picture of Kim Kardashian standing naked in front of a mirror. I’d be a hypocrite if I’d say that it did because I’ve been in the fashion industry before I got married. The question on hand is that is it okay for a mother to act sexy or be publicaly known as sexy? If in any way the answer is no then why is it so? Are we moms obligated to keep up with a maternal appearance? And if anyhow that is the given scenario, what is the take of society on a mother’s freedom? Are we supposed to forget about whom we are and how we want to look just because of society’s approach towards how a mother should be?

Well, I’m not ready to lay down my weapons. It is old fashioned and everything against an individual’s personal freedom. I say no to all the standards of the society that how I should personally look and behave like besides being a mother. I know that parents are supposed to be a role model, but I think a mother who can be as good as she can get is better than a mother who suffers and suffocates herself in the molded mother figure created by  society of how a mother should be.  I think the best thing about being a parent is the freedom of how we choose to raise our kids according to our beliefs, what we’ve learned and experienced, and surely what culture we admire. You can’t do anything wrong as long as we know what we’re doing for our kids is the best and if being sexy is what a woman likes to be then we should not take it away from her just because she’s a mother. As far as I’m concerned, the thing you should be focused at is being a good parent and role model. Your personality and personal appearance should not matter.

Kim Kardashian’s act did take me back to my glamorous days and the thing that bothered me was some unnecessary comments on her picture telling her not to behave this way just because she’s a mother. No one is concerned about her nude as much as they are about her being a mother. It doesn’t bother me at all given the way she’d lived her life so far and the industry she’s working in. She’s in the entertainment industry, under the spotlights all the time and I don’t think that this incident shouldn’t have been made a big deal and if it has, is it because she has kids? I’m following Kendall Jenner on her Instagram page too. There are a couple of nudies uploaded by her too and the fact that she’s just a fashion model with no kids, the comments on her nudes are nothing like the ones on Kim Kardashian’s and that shows the hypocrite nature of our society towards mothers.