Why You Shouldn’t Care About What Other People Think

whatpeoplethinkDealing with what other people think about you is part of the human nature. You can’t think less about how people perceive your personality and lifestyle. Social media has played a major part in fueling the already judgmental people to share their negative and a lot less positive feedback about other people’s lives. Everyone is free to share their opinion positive or negative about a person’s lifestyle. There’s no social-media-police which can stop these people from trolling others. Where social media is winning a war for freedom of expression and making it easy for everyone to share their opinion and connect, it’s also losing one against cyber and virtual bullying.

The reason why I’m writing this blog is to highlight this matter of bullying which my other blogger friends told me about and I’ve also personally experienced. Those harsh words used by the trolls can be traumatizing and can also destroy your confidence. It is very important that we shouldn’t care much about other people’s negative opinion which can lower our morale and disheartens us from doing what we cherish. I and my friends have learned some things from these bad experiences with the followers and have come up with some counter-thoughts and techniques that make us care less about what others thing and it feels like freedom. I actually feel liberated and even a little bit of that bully who wants YOU to have his opinion or approval. Once you stop looking for an approval from someone else your self-esteem boosts, and you start to appreciate and respect your own self. Let me tell the story of how I started to see myself differently, caring less about what others think.

Almost a year ago when I was visiting my mum during the summer vacations, I told her that how stressful it gets being a blogger when people have a negative opinion about you. The one thing she said that hit me really hard was simple yet reassuring. She said that it’s none of your business to think about other people’s opinion. What really matters is the opinion of people who really know about you and your personality. It made me think that she’s right, why should I care about a stranger’s opinion? Why should I spend my energies on a perspective that isn’t gonna make me or break me? I agree, that I’m a people pleaser and I’ve always been good at academics and I’ve also done my best to make my parents proud. I’m passionate about the things that I love and working hard to be the best version of me is in my nature. It is something that I’ve inherited from my parents. I started this blog when I was pregnant with my first kid, and so far I’ve been successful with my dream to contribute to the society by doing what I do best. If you’re satisfied by what you do and how you look then that is all what matters. All the haters will turn into admirers when they’d watch you overcoming your barriers and becoming successful. Until you achieve those goals you always dreamed about, you shouldn’t stop a second to think about what others have to say. This is the key to the spiritual liberation that gets the best out of all of us.